You’ve decided to elope—cue the happy tears, the adventure planning, and the “wait, what now?” moment.
First of all, congrats for choosing to celebrate your love in a way that actually feels like you. Whether you’re hiking into a forest, exchanging vows on a cliffside, or saying “I do” barefoot in your own backyard, eloping is all about intention over tradition.
But even when you’re keeping it simple, there’s still planning involved—and we’re here to help. Here’s what actually matters when you’re planning your elopement, from folks who’ve been there (camera in hand, tissues in pocket).
1. Start With Why
Not to sound like your therapist, but… why are you eloping?
Getting clear on your “why” will help you shape every decision after:
- Are you craving intimacy and privacy?
- Wanting to skip the pressure of a big event?
- Dreaming of adventure or travel?
- Hoping to prioritize your values and avoid family drama?
Your “why” is your compass. Let it guide everything from location to timeline.
2. Choose a Location That Feels Like You
The beauty of an elopement? You can literally go anywhere. A mountaintop, a cabin in the woods, a courthouse downtown, your favorite taco joint—if it feels like you, it’s perfect. Here is some of our favorite places.
Keep in mind:
- Season and weather: Is it accessible year-round? Will you be sweating through your vows?
- Permits and legal stuff: Some public lands or national parks require permits.
- Accessibility: Can your guests (if any) easily join? Will you be hiking in heels?
Your location doesn’t need to be trendy. It just needs to feel right.
3. Build a Timeline (Even If It’s Loose)
Yes, even elopements need timelines.
We’re not talking minute-by-minute, but your day will feel so much smoother if you build a simple flow that includes:
- Getting ready (solo or together)
- First look or slow morning coffee
- Travel time to the location
- Ceremony
- Photo time (hello golden hour)
- Post-elopement dinner, picnic, or celebration
This gives your day structure without the stress. Trust us—future you will thank you.
4. Bring the Right People (Or None at All)
Elopements can be just the two of you. Or you + your besties. Or your dog and your grandma. There are no rules.
But here’s the thing: only invite people who will honor your vision.
This is not the time for guilt invites or people who will side-eye your choices. Surround yourself with people who will support you, celebrate you, and hand you tissues when you ugly-cry.
5. Hire a Photographer You Actually Like
Spoiler: you’re going to spend a lot of time with your photographer—especially if you’re eloping with zero guests.
You want someone who:
- Feels like a friend
- Understands your values
- Knows how to gently guide without interrupting the moment
- Can help build your timeline and offer location ideas
- Knows how to capture candid, meaningful moments in all kinds of light
We’re not just there to take pictures—we’re your dress fluffer, vow hype squad, timeline keeper, and snack provider.
6. Add Personal Touches
Just because you’re skipping the ballroom doesn’t mean you’re skipping the magic.
Write your own vows. Wear that outfit that makes you feel unstoppable. Bring your favorite records and dance in the desert. Order takeout from your favorite restaurant. Let your day feel like a love letter to you.
Elopements can be intimate and intentional and fun as hell.
Final Thoughts: Ditch the Rules. Keep the Meaning.
Eloping is a chance to say no to expectations—and yes to what matters most. Your day doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Whether you’re hiking through redwoods or cozying up in your backyard with candles and cake, you deserve a wedding day that feels like coming home.
And if you’re looking for a photographer who celebrates you exactly as you are—we got you.
